I’ve not felt well lately, very tired and stressed. Part of this comes
from having a lot of appointments scheduled. A big part of it however
comes from wanting to do to much. I don’t want to do extraordinary stuff
— although for my condition it would qualify as such. I want to do
stuff other people consider normal.
- Walk the dog for an extra long time.
- Buying groceries.
- Hanging out with friends.
- Visit family.
- Go to the movies.
- Randomly hop into the car with TG and go for a nice beach-walk.
All of these things require planning on my side, which also sucks up
A couple of days ago I read Michael Nobbs’ new book Sustainable
Creativity in which he
discusses the importance of learning how to say ‘no’. For some areas I
know when to say ‘no’: I can easily say it when I don’t want to do
something, or I don’t have the time, or I have other plans. But at those
times when I don’t have plans yet, I really want to do it and think I
have the energy, I won’t say no. And this backfires. I rarely do have
that much energy, and end up canceling many things. This does not make
Tonight I watched the movie
‘Yes-man‘ and it gave me an
idea. What if I say ‘no’ instead? I have things planned (and one
not-yet-planned-but-sorta) and won’t _pre_cancel them. I will not make
new plans however, excluding the ones where I go to the hospital (or
other medical stuff) or where people come to my house (less tiring).
This May sound a little drastic, but I gave it some thought and it seems
like a cool experiment. Worst case, I’ll feel bad the day after for
saying ‘no’ and then I’ll have learned I said ‘no’ to something that
matters to me. In a way, this will force me to re-evaluate things that
matter to me most, and these May or May not include the things I think
matter the most.
It will also, hopefully, give me some practice in saying ‘no’ when I do
think I have lots of energy (but actually don’t and I end up wasting all
of my reserves).
I have no idea about how long I want to do this, considering a month or
perhaps until New Year